How about a dose of honesty. On the drive in most mornings Im wondering to myself, what will I write about today. This morning I didn't have to think for long. I was listening to the radio when the news anchor said this, "A long time correspondent at ABC has died in a skiing accident in C0lorado." He didn't have to read the next line. I caught my breath and braced for the news, but I could predict what was coming. I was right. John McWethy had died.
I met John on the worst day of my life. It was September 11th, 2001. It demonstrates his ability as a journalist that he found me. I had talked to a public affairs officer with the Air Force who wanted to know if I had witnessed the attack on the Pentagon. He was trying to find witnesses for the FBI agent who was investigating. John was always working his sources. So a short time later, he approached me, and in a hushed whisper he told me that he had heard that I had witnessed the jet slamming into the Pentagon. He asked if he could interview me. I agreed, and he hustled me off quietly to a section removed from the swarm of reporters.
John McWethy had something he tended to get a lot, an exclusive interview. No
one else had interviewed me, no one else had even asked. His photographer didn't like the location. There was a bit of an argument. John wanted to stay put, the photographer wanted to move. The photographer won out. He needed the Pentagon in the background of the shot. During the interview I was struck by his sensitive manner. He could tell I was still in a state of shock over what I had seen. He genuinely seemed to care.
I think deep down John knew that the photographer was right to have the Pentagon in the background, but he also knew it would attract attention. As the interview was wrapping up, he said, "Look what I've done to you, you should run." He could tell I was traumatized by what I saw. Moments later I was swarmed by reporters, and John had lost his exclusive interview. But deep down I think he could care less, he was more concerned about how all of this was going to affect me.
A few years ago our paths crossed again. Both of us were asked to speak at a conference in Baltimore. We got locked into a long conversation that stretched from the conference room to the parking lot. We stood in the bitter cold talking about our business, 9-11, and the tough stories we were asked to cover along the way. It was cold, and starting to snow. John said, "Hey jump in the car, it's cold out here." He turned on the car, and the heater and our conversation went on for another half hour. It was one of those bonding moments in life that are so rare. One of those moments when you feel really connected to someone, because they understand you, and you understand them.
As we were parting, John loaned me a tape of a remarkable report he had done on PTSD for Niteline. We developed a friendship that day. A few months later John and his wife Laurie met us for dinner at his favorite restaurant in Mclean. It was a wonderful night out at Cafe Oggi. Great food, great people, and great conversation. John and I picked up where we had left off in the car. We were fascinated with each others backgrounds. John's background was so different from mine.
Sure both of us were on television. But John was a print guy who swore he would never work in television. In the end though he was recruited by Roone Arledge. My experience was in local television. My whole career was spent at local television stations, with the exception of the three years when I worked at USA TODAY.
We pledged to get together for a cup of coffee, sadly it never happened. We did stay in touch through email. My most recent email from him came just about 4 months ago. I thought of John, because I knew he was retired, and that he and his wife cared passionately about homelessness and hunger issues. So I tried to recruit both of them to serve 0n a Capital Area Food Bank committee I was chairing. I didn't know that he had already snuck out of town. This is an excerpt from his email to me.
Mike,You are correct that Laurie and I have an interest in the
hunger/housing issue. She was chair of ASPAN (Arlington's non-profit
homeless program) board. She, however, resigned from the board because we
have moved to Boulder, CO. We've always loved the mountains and thought it
would be fun to do a little reinventing of ourselves. So in a
backward way (this is what they call burying the lead), I guess this means
neither of us will be able to attend the Aug. 27 luncheon. Keep up the
good work.>From the foot of the Rockies...john
I sent notes to friends, this morning, letting them know about this terrible loss. Each one expressed shock, and talked about what a great man John was. I thought I'd share one from my friend Leigh Germanis, who was the moderator at the conference in Baltimore..
Mike,
I’m just devastated. I can’t believe it. John McWethy was
such a force for good... such a genuinely warm and caring person who seemed to
not have a selfish bone in his body. I’d exchanged e-mails with him just a
couple of months ago. He was loving life in Colorado and wasn’t missing
the journalistic rat race…or DC at all. I got in touch to see if he might
consider coming speaking to a regional conference of TV journalists…he said he
really was trying not to get on planes anymore…unless absolutely
necessary. All those years living out of a suitcase…I guess I couldn’t
blame him.
What a terrible loss. I’ll never forget how
wonderfully supportive he was of our ICISF workshop in Baltimore. So
generously giving of his time and effort. And so encouraging of me when I confessed that I didn’t think I had the ‘chops’ to help moderate the
thing. Our loss is heaven’s gain. God bless him…and comfort his
family as they mourn losing him…far too soon.
John McWethy was a talented journalist, who left such a mark on my profession. He was also my friend. But more importantly he was a great guy, who touched everyone he met, and he died in the place he loved, at the foot of the Rockies.